Earl Nightingale was a terrific inspiration to many before my time, however, his wisdom lives on ad infinitum due to the power of the internet, through those who are still alive from his generation, and via various sources of ‘off’line media ( books, audios ).
It is from the middle of these that I heard this information, and it was so valuable, it is forming the fundamental core of this post.
To preface: Critics are everywhere, most especially when you are doing something that makes him/her/them uncomfortable, something they do not understand (or wish to), or due to some base negative emotion – jealousy, envy, fear, greed, or revenge. Now, why would you, as someone who is striking out on a journey to do something un-average, something that blesses lives, something that is significant in its impact on your family, friends, culture, or the nation in which you live, ever listen to a critic? Quite likely, its due to the concept of ‘peer pressure’ — there’s something inside of each of us that wants to drive us to conform, to gain or curry favor from those whom we know, to “fit in” with the crowd. Herein lies the problem at its root; those who do the greatest acts often are criticized, sometimes completely without provocation, with very little merit. Many historical examples spring to mind: Rosa Parks, Gandhi, Lincoln, Washington, Mother Teresa, Jesus Christ, Pythagoras, Mandela, … the list goes on and on.
So, you’re not nearly as well known as those men & women? Neither were they at one point or many points in their lives. They stepped out. They became public figures. They strived to effect change and be part of the solution(s) to problems. How many critics do you know who have done great and lasting things? Exactly. I bet you said ‘none’. 🙂
Let’s now dive into Mr. Nightingale’s list of nine/9 traits of a critic. See which one(s) strike the most as you are on your journey; if you are on one, or are considering stepping out from the herd, you’ll quite likely experience one or more of these. Here’s hoping they help you reframe, and re-set your mindset. Never let a critic infilitrate your subsconscious mind- those four billion neurons per second are far too valuable real estate to sell to someone(s) who do not have your best interests at heart, in mind, and in spirit.
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No. 1 – A critic only thinks of him/herself.
No. 2 – Critics only talk of themselves.
No. 3 – Critics sulk if people aren’t grateful for what they’ve done.
No. 4 – Critics never forget a service that’s been rendered by them.
No. 5 – A critic expects to be appreciated.
No. 6 – Critics are suspicious of everyone.
No. 7 – Critics are sensitive to slight(s).
No. 8 – Critics are jealous and envious.
No. 9 – Critics don’t trust anyone but themselves.
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He also added that these all make a critic’s life miserable, so they tend towards being loveless, and can often be non-providers.
After letting the above sink in, think long, hard, and in depth: Do you really want someone with even one of these traits helping you make a decision of any size? Offering you an opinion?
Always positively associate with those who have vision, defined/detected purpose, anchored to their priorities, and whom have your back in all situations.
Hope this helps you. As always, feedback is welcomed & encouraged. Many blessings & well wishes!