Nov 042013
Why aren't you doing (or have quit doing) something worthy? ...

… There’s a strong likelihood that the reasons are deeply seated, below the surface of your life, and in need of being brought out so you can dedicate your days to something that will leave a mark in our dark world. Being a candle in such a world isn’t the easiest thing you’ll ever embark on doing, however, it will have the most worth — by far.  ( I am living testament to this truth. )

From a fantastic audio recorded from a talk that I had the utmost pleasure to hear and experience in person,  below I’ve recapped the Top 10 reasons ##.  The reasons are fully from the speaker’s vast experiences in working with people for years upon years; the commentary below them is mostly my own, tying to my own ongoing journey taking the road less traveled.


10 > Pride

Prideful-ness is a major contributor to many negative traits and decisions. Often, it is connected to crowd-satisfying peer pressure, or negativity of some type. Study ways in which you can learn how to remove pride from your life to the greatest extent.

9 > Besetting sin(s)

In most anyone’s closet, there are skeletons from the past. After all, man is not by nature “good”, he (she) is a fallen sinner. We all have done, or perhaps are still doing, things which are sinful. Many quit something of value to avoid conflict, or to avoid having to confront thing(s) which are unpleasant.

8 > Lack of character

Resolution 2 from the highly regarded book, ‘Resolved’ includes an equation:  Integrity x courage = character. Do you know someone who quit before the finish line?  Perhaps he/she simply lacked the former, integrity itself. Or, on the other hand, maybe there was a shortage of courage at the root. Either way, character counts, as Os Guinness taught us in his short, and profound book of that name.

7 > Distractions

Broken focus. Ah, what was that you said again?!.  Yes, your focus was just broken. Maybe it was the lure of “lesser things” ( good > great , reversing the order ); or, was it a lack of sorting out your priorities from your urgencies and obligations?  Regardless: Distractions hurt the pursuit of the worth (-y).

6 > Comfort.

Odysseus fell prey to a siren song, did he not?  Have far too many modern day Americans, let alone most of the ‘First World’ citizens done the same as this well known Greek legend? Yes, I say — the verdict is in. Entitlements?  You’re entitled to very very little, except which is transmuted to you via natural laws. Comfort comes in many forms – if you want to join the 2-20% of society that is far ahead of the rest, avoid it! Have lots of fun, and restore yourself — self-care, so to speak, but don’t get comfortable!

5 > Dream is too small

The cure for this at the very root?  Three fantastic books:  ‘The Magic of Thinking Big”, “The Dream Giver”, & “Visioneering”.

You have to dream. And dream often & consistently. Please, though, do not confuse this with fantasy, or wishes, or the ‘SFN’ (Something for Nothing) club. Dreaming is a discipline, a requirement to be successful, and very invigorating to the soul, spirit, and mind. Be sure yours are B-I-G. !

4 > Relational challenges

We all have them, or had them, including me. It’s part of life in many ways – people are … people! And, since the 80-98% don’t study, learn, and practice human relations/people skills as a matter of due course, chances are, they have these challenges more often. To fix this instead of quitting something valuable to your legacy, study conflict resolution first. Best books in this area?  “Courage” & “The Anatomy of Peace”

3 > Personal responsibility

You’re the project. Simple as that. You cannot change others, and never, ever should you blame another person, let alone something inanimate, such as a golf club, for what you alone control. Personal responsibility is a brother to personal growth/change; it is the antithesis to dependence. Jump over independence, and move into the interdependent level of action & thinking to really learn how to get better on this point.

2 > Selfdoubt / low belief

Belief, and its companion faith, are imperative in everyone’s life. Quitting, being the opposite of success, easily can tie into missing the ‘belief’ coin. Let alone letting self-doubt, or being in a valley reflect your day to day living. Doubt is cured by plugging into better information — stopping listening to yourself — and, finding better association. One’s ‘tribe’, community, or platoon/foxhole should be shared with only those who are going to edify, uplift, encourage, and coach/mentor you to greater things. Get your hands on the new in 2013 book, “Confidence of a Champion” as a key add-on. It is stellar!

1 > Lack of mental toughness

A leader armours him/herself – tough skin required. Toughness is an ingredient in large quantities. The best read to counter-act this reason for joining the ‘quitter’s contingent’?  “Toughen Up!” — Mr. Hamilton pushes all the right buttons in this 2013 tome. In a world of correctors, cynics, discouragers, and unhealthy skeptics – many of whom do not read, or grow themselves in any other discerning way, adding layers of toughness, while keeping a soft heart, is the right way to prevent quitting due to this reason.


My hope is that this list & the books/tidbits tied to them, added a large measure of value. As always, comments & shares are deeply appreciated & welcomed. Gratitude in abundance is how I live.


## – that talk was from Mr. Chris Brady. You’ll find his blog in my blogroll, and numerous books that he authored, or co-authored, reviewed and recommended on my second (Tumblr) blog, also linked in the corner of the main splash page.  All the best to him & his family at all times, as his example is one that I wish to emulate as a lifelong self-directed student.

Feb 102013
Johari Window & LIFE Coaching - Define, Learn, Do -

The Johari Window is a very insightful & enlightening look into the mind, will, & heart of a person, is it not?

For me, its elegant simplicity is what stands out – one shouldn’t have to have certifications or degrees to be able to understand, learn from, and then apply needed changes into his/her/their lives using a model such as this.

Personal growth & change is something that all of us should embrace warmly, for we are imperfect people swimming daily in a world awash with data, which is not always information; what makes it through the filters to be considered information is far from always quality (wheat) info; and even if it is world class/gold medal “wheat”, it is not always communication.

I am most interested in the upper right quadrant/box for this post — since I’d break down Life (or Christian Life/Business) Coaching to a base definition of helping someone identify his/her blind spot(s), and then going forward with them, in a ‘walk a mile, see a mile‘ approach, to help them address it/them, which, over an adult time frame, will then lead to him/her living a more significant/quality life.

Blind spots are nothing that cannot be healed, addressed, or improved; what helps a Life Coach such as me to address the  is to educate the person(s) on the Define, Learn, Do model of personal growth/change.

Define => What do you want out of life?  What’s your why? Or, put even better, how can I help you live the life you’ve always wanted?

Learn => Let’s connect you with world class information: books, audio (CD, mp3’s), DVDs, You Tube vid clips, & streaming live, or in person events to help you read, listen, & positively associate with those who share your why & wants/needs. Learn from the information & them along the way. Realize that the power of compounding & a long term vision are imperative in this step.

Do => As you learn something from the association & the ‘be the example’ mentor / LIFE coach, do what he/she/they are doing or have done. They’ve blazed the trail through the forest, and given you the map to get you from your “Point A” (present) to your desired “Point Z” (future), so simply follow it and be a humble, hungry, and open minded student.

Along the way, there will likely be course corrections, stumbles, mistakes, & perhaps even some back tracking to get back on the map’s trail. Do not ever quit!  Quitting is the polar opposite of success; failure is but a teachable moment(s) and never defines you as a person. After all, your blind spot(s) quite likely did not develop in your upper right quadrant in a single day, so like stated above, have an adult time frame ( think: it takes 9 months for a new life to be born, and roughly 4 years to get a professional track under-grad degree ) & stick to the game plan!

Over the past 2+ years of my own journey, which led to wrapping a business around my purpose ( which is to serve 10,000 people over 10 years by being a messenger & a conduit to top quality/ ‘wheat’  information & being a glass cleaner/candle to light a path & serve first, always ), I’ve run into blind spots of my own, and being a student always attracts teachers who want to coach or mentor others. I’ve had this bountiful blessing in this time, and I consider it a privilege and honour to pay it forward to as many as I can.

The Johari Window, combined with Define-Learn-Do, and applied through tuning out information that is not adding value (‘noise’/’chaff’, such as much of what the mass media offers up on a daily basis) and replacing the latter with a focus on your core senses ( reading=eyes; listening=ears; association=touch) will calibrate the below equation’s inputs, and get you to “Point Z”.




Have the best day of your life ahead & be of great cheer!